Posted by: Sharmila Rajah Post(s) by this bloggerThis is my last blog entry at Parenthots. It has been an amazing six years and so it is very hard to say goodbye. Thank you all for your continued support, words of encouragement and great insights about parenthood. I'm sure you'd agree with me that parenthood is full of surprises at every turn; a learning experience for both parents and children. I wish you all the best. Love Sharmila, Arjuna, Ayanna & Shamindra
Posted by: Sharmila Rajah Post(s) by this bloggerHow did this happen? Ayanna went through it too; now Shamindra is exhibiting strong fears of visiting the doctor. A recent visit to the doctor started with refusal to be weighed or measured; plenty of coaxing finally got him into the doctor's room which led to more crying. Thankfully the pediatrician was patient and clearly gentle and playful that Shamindra eased up and left with a smile. I put it down to the trauma of injections. Experts say it's normal for a preschooler to be fearful. After all, anxiety is a natural condition to help kids cope with new experiences and protects them from danger. How to help our kids: - acknowledge their fears. - explain what the doctors visit is going to be like and ensure that you'll be there while the doctor examines him. - role play with a toy doctor kit adds a element of fun.
Posted by: Sharmila Rajah Post(s) by this bloggerShamindra has begun school. And he is super excited about it! Though it was mostly convenience that led us to his school, but it has turned out to be a great experience for him thus far. The teachers and working staff are very welcoming and caring. They (KizSports & Gym)practice the 'learn thru play' method which uses themes and hands-on activities. Using thematic approach, children (ages 2-6) participate in role play, story time, art & craft, song & movement. It's a fun learning foundation that encourages and promotes discovery, exploration, participation and curiosity. We look forward to an exciting term ahead.
Posted by: Sharmila Rajah Post(s) by this bloggerHaze, Haze Go Away Shamindra and Ayanna want to play ... The haze has kept the kids indoors. They're starting to get cranky and are really wanting to venture out the front door. What to do? While there are countless indoor playgrounds that we can go to, these playgrounds are bound to be overcrowded. So we are going to get creative at home. Here's how? - water play - art - play-dough - reading - role playing - after reading Cinderella, it's time for us to get our wands, crowns and ball gowns from the dress-up cupboard for some fun play. - rearranging cushions and building our own indoor playground. How do you plan on beating these hazy blues? Do remember to keep well hydrated. Play on!
Posted by: Sharmila Rajah Post(s) by this bloggerDear Fathers - Hope you've had a wonderful day with your little (or big) ones. Everyday should be Fathers Day because you play such an integral role in your children's lives.
"I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection." -Sigmund Freud
Posted by: Sharmila Rajah Post(s) by this bloggerShamindra is a bundle of energy, more active now than ever. He’s very competitive. Everything his sister does, he wants to do. He’s even taken to the balance bike just because Ayanna's learning to ride. His vocabulary is expanding. He’s beginning to string his words together to form more complete sentences. Two- word sentences have given way to more complex four or five word sentences. He’s turning into quite a conversationalist and is very eager to engage through words. Shamindra knows all his alphabets – big and small; he’s got a firm grip on his numbers though 6 & 9 are always mixed up; and he can name most things around him and the different colours he sees. Shamindra continues to display a curious need for new discoveries– he loves experimenting with new things, situations. Experts say repetitive actions perfect his motor skills. That's part of the reason he can't help doing something that I’ve asked him repeatedly not to. He surprised us when he used an available step stool to open the fridge door that appeared beyond reach.
Concentrating on art...
As he grows older and is more in control of his movements, he is able to play with smaller toys; he is able to hold a pencil. Shamindra is also able to concentrate for slightly longer which makes reading, art and writing more attractive to him. It’s safe to say Shamindra has been successfully potty-trained during the day. He displays a willingness to use the potty when asked or on his own; and is able to tell us when he needs to ‘pee pee’ or ‘poo poo’. While there’s so much that’s positive going on – the whining and tantrums are starting to emerge. And as I’ve done before with Ayanna, distracting, ignoring, and watching out for over-stress signals (so I’m able to avoid them altogether) are part of my action plan.
Posted by: Sharmila Rajah Post(s) by this blogger“It’s mine!” “No!!!”
It’s a daily struggle. Shamindra, like any typical two-year-old has no intention of sharing no matter what we say or do. Being the only child growing up Ayanna never encountered the need to share. Two-year-olds are downright possessive. Most aren't ready to share. Things they like (not necessarily theirs even) are seen as an extension of themselves. They are only now starting to understand possession. Sharing is a learned activity. And boy do we have some ways to go before Shamindra masters it. Here are some ways to encourage the act of sharing – Practice taking turns with regular things from reading a book, stacking blocks, playing at the playground. These give-and-take practices can be turned into games with his favourite toys. Here’s when he’ll begin to learn about taking turns and that sharing can be fun. Using positive reinforcement encourages generosity. Disciplining may promote resentment. Talking about the emotions associated with sharing. Ayanna and I read ‘Emily’s sharing & Caring Book’ by Cindy Post Seening & Peggy Post when she was growing up. Looks like we’ll have to dig that out off the cupboard. Respecting his things – ask permission and make sure siblings and playmates respect his things too, by asking to use them and by taking good care of them when they do. Leading by example – it’s the best form of learning. When a two year old witnesses generosity and sharing, there’s a strong chance he’s going to learn to practice it. How do you encourage your little one to share?
Posted by: Sharmila Rajah Post(s) by this bloggerTo all teachers (parents and extended family included) – thank you for guiding, educating and molding the future generation. Teachers, apart from parents, are the main source of knowledge and values for children. Teachers impart knowledge in the most impressionable years. Teachers have a significant mark on the development of children. Keep up the great work…
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Here's wishing mothers everywhere a very Happy Mother's Day! Thank you for all the sacrifices; and for always going beyond. We love you!
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For the dentist that is.
Ayanna made her annual trip to see the dentist recently. All her teeth are good.
Ayanna has started losing her teeth. Milk teeth fall out in the same order in which they arrived. Her two middle bottom teeth have been the first to go, and in its place we can now spot two permanent teeth sprouting. Her top two are loose and shaky.
Ayanna is excited about this developmental phase. Though there are times when she’s afraid to bite into her food just in case she may experience pain. Most baby teeth fall out on their own. Healthy tooth brushing habits are to continue to ensure clean permanent teeth. When the permanent teeth do come in, they'll be larger than milk teeth, have ridges and may be slightly yellow.
How is your Big Kid handling this phase?