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Children How Handle 3 years old kid Mr Shebby,

I'm a mother of a 3-year-old kid and a 4-month-old toddler. Both of them are boys. As a working mum, I feel very stressed when my elder son doesn't want to listen to me. Of course, in the day time both of them are at the babysitter's house and after 6pm I'm the one taking care of them. Sometimes, my son is very stubborn about what he wants and I'm unable to control him without yelling at him. I realise it's not the proper way of handling a 3-year-old kid but I just don't know any better way. If I'm strict with him on any matter, my husband is not happy with it and he listens to whatever the son says. In this case, I become the very bad mummy to my kid and sometimes it really hurts me. Sometimes, I just don't bother and let the father handle him. I know it's not a good idea and it will also spoil the kid. Is there any better way to make my hubby to understand the importance of discipline and also to raise my kids in a proper way? Please help me!

- Desperate mum -

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Answered by Shebby Hiya desperate mum,

The question or answer is quite simply of your son getting his way at daycare where obviously he is cared for by a 'very nice' ladies who let him get his way. Then he comes home and his Mummy is 'not so nice' to him. He is rebelling and it does not help when his Dad sides with him.

This is a typical problem where daycare pampers and parents then desperately try to discipline their children.

The solution is perhaps to have a live-in maid with the kids spending more time at home after kindy school in a more familiar environment.

And the father spending time kicking a football around with your 3-year-old and teaching him the basics. This will make his father understand the need for guidance instead of being a 'yes man' to your son.

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    Shebby Singh is well known in Malaysia as a football analyst and pundit. But there is something else that he has a lot of experience in - parenting.

    Having been a dad for more than 20 years, he joins ParenThots to give his brand of "tough love" advice to parents.

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